All relationships tend to start off with a lot of love, lust and respect. It’s only after couples have been together for a while that they start to go downhill because the real traits of the partners start to come out. Many of these couples split up and go their own ways to brighten or ruin the lives of new people. Sadly, a high percentage of some people decide to remain in those relationships because of not knowing how to handle abusive partners. Those people become relationship doormats and it’s a hard pattern to break.
You may not even realize that you’ve turned into a doormat even though you’ve got friends and family members that are trying to tell you the truth. Some of the signs that you’ve become a relationship doormat include but aren’t limited to:
You’re constantly being cheated on: This is something that many women continue to tolerate even though it’s one of the most hurtful and disrespectful things that a man can do to them. They choose to turn their backs on the situation or they simply decide to stay in the relationship even though it’s pretty obvious that it’s not a loving and devoted one on both sides.
He always chooses his friends over you: Friends are great for everyone to have and it’s also good to hang out with them periodically. But if your man is constantly blowing off spending time with you in favor of playing with his friends, he has a warped sense of devotion. He’ll probably want your attention when he comes home from that night out with the boys all drunk and horny, though.
He makes fun of you or criticizes you in front of others: If it seems that you never do anything right when it comes to your man and he does nothing but tell you how stupid you are or incompetent you are, he probably does it in front of other people, too. This shows the blatant disrespect he has for you. Also, he can’t love you if he’s constantly finding fault with everything you do.
He rarely has sex with you and when he does, it’s all about him: That’s what you call an inconsiderate and selfish jerk. Why are you with this guy?
He’s hurting you physically: If this is happening to you, it’s time for you to move on. Nothing is worse than this because you can become severely damaged or worse when you’re physically abused. So many women will remain in this type of situation for various reasons, but it’s wrong and dangerous.
These are just some of the signs that you’ve become a doormat in a relationship that’s never going to be a happy one unless you decide to stand up for yourself. Of course, then you’ll probably have to leave this horrible boor that you’ve attached yourself to but it will definitely be worth it in the end. The only way you’re going to be happy is to meet the man that will cherish you and love you the way you’re meant to be. Don’t allow yourself to be a doormat. If you do, you’ll never be as happy as you could be.